Well I was just wondering how often if at all people feel genuinely sad after certain kinds of dreams?

Example would be a dream I had once: I was walking through the mall with a gal I didn't recognize afterward.  But during the dream I felt the overwhelming sense of love for her.  Like I had known her for years and loved her.  Then I woke up later feeling empty and missing that feeling of love..  It was so genuine and sad feeling.

What are your experiences with this?

I had a similar dream, around 16-17 years ago. I can still feel it. There was a girl who I was sure I'd known forever. There was something so pure and beautiful, but hauntingly sad about her. It's the most emotionally powerful dream I've ever had. I have no idea who she was...

I have dreams about someone I used to be friends with at school from time to time. I was emotionally "attached" to her but things ended pretty badly, so whenever I dream about her (whether or not she's being cold or friendly towards me) I generally wake up feeling very sad about it. An exception was when she resulted in me having a lucid dream, so now I'm trying to get her to be my dream guide.

I've had several of those intense "in love" dreams like that.  The lucid ones are even worse, because you know it's going to end when you wake up.  I've promised to find them again, but I've never been able to.  They are still so fun they are worth it, I think.

Yep, had the same, in a lucid. Fell in love with a girl, that is totally not my type. The dream spanned a couple of days, and I got to meet her parents and everything

And I spent the last half of the dream crying because I knew I'd lose her and had this feeling that she might in fact be a real entity somewhere. I was probably wrong. Certainly hope so

(BTW boy was she the kinky sort (didn't have sex, but she was being playful))

Yeah, I've had many dreams like that. They can be quite sad actually.. I prolong the dream as much as I can, but obviously reality kicks in eventually. It gets worse when these dreams become repetitive, with the same person on multiple nights. The sadness is always as strong as ever.

YUP, happened to me many times !

Not so much falling in love and losing them when I wake up, but I have awoken after particularly distressful dream scenes.  There was one a few years ago where I woke up crying because nobody loved me (looking back, it was actually quite childish, but hey, it's a dream), and I also recall one where I was watching this heart monitor I knew was attached to my sister and watched the numbers go down until she had passed away.  It took me a little while when I woke up to realize that it had just been a dream.  Yah, not fun.

I've always been fascinated with now emotions can be so muted or amplified in our dreams.  Free from most external stimuli, our emotions can drive us to do or see or experience so much on a variety of different levels.  I relish the dreams where I am filled with joy and if I am saddened in a dream, I do what I can to let it go.

Quote from: Xox on November 06, 2008, 11:15:30 PMYeah, I've had many dreams like that. They can be quite sad actually.. I prolong the dream as much as I can, but obviously reality kicks in eventually. It gets worse when these dreams become repetitive, with the same person on multiple nights. The sadness is always as strong as ever. I always with that would happen, but it never does.  Not with pure DC's, anyway.

Quote from: Moonbeam on November 07, 2008, 09:35:28 PMQuote from: Xox on November 06, 2008, 11:15:30 PMYeah, I've had many dreams like that. They can be quite sad actually.. I prolong the dream as much as I can, but obviously reality kicks in eventually. It gets worse when these dreams become repetitive, with the same person on multiple nights. The sadness is always as strong as ever. I always with that would happen, but it never does.  Not with pure DC's, anyway. Yeah, mine disappear after a few days, and never come back. I know what you mean by "pure DC's." In lucids I've tried summoning the DC's again, but it's never exactly the same DC.

Quote from: Xox on November 08, 2008, 12:08:08 AMQuote from: Moonbeam on November 07, 2008, 09:35:28 PMQuote from: Xox on November 06, 2008, 11:15:30 PMYeah, I've had many dreams like that. They can be quite sad actually.. I prolong the dream as much as I can, but obviously reality kicks in eventually. It gets worse when these dreams become repetitive, with the same person on multiple nights. The sadness is always as strong as ever. I always with that would happen, but it never does.  Not with pure DC's, anyway. Yeah, mine disappear after a few days, and never come back. I know what you mean by "pure DC's." In lucids I've tried summoning the DC's again, but it's never exactly the same DC.

That was supposed to be "wish" that would happen.  I guess it's just as sad if you lose them after a few days as after one night, maybe more so.

I get repeat DC's who are real-people DC's, but never (or very rarely) repeat regular non-real-people DC's.  I imagine that would be a problem, recreating the exact same pure DC.

I'm usually sad after dreams that I'm a robot, dreams that I have psychic powers, and dreams that I'm at a beautiful Utopian school filled with cute, flirtatious girls. My reality sucks compared to my awesome dreams.

Quote from: Moonbeam on November 08, 2008, 01:37:59 PMI get repeat DC's who are real-people DC's, but never (or very rarely) repeat regular non-real-people DC's.  I imagine that would be a problem, recreating the exact same pure DC.

Depends what you mean about "exact".  I rarely re-create a DC who is visually identical to previous ones.  But I often experience DCs in similar ways and that's how I "recognise" them.  I think dreams work very much at that level.  Hey, even I look different in each of my dreams!

Back to the OP, yes I get sad feelings and indeed many other extreme feelings.  I assume these are repressed (i.e. not available to conscious experience) emotions from long ago, before I had words for even thoughts associated with them.  So any visual representations would be entirely constructed in the dream.

I sometimes wake up slightly tearing, Sometimes not even remembering the dream. There are some dreams that I have had that feel like it is a whole day, and my mind makes me think this is life. I'm to unconscious to realize it is nothing like my life. It is often when I am in love, or someone near to me is gone.

I've had some dreams that evoked sad emotions when I woke up since I was a kid, I think.. I used to dream of having things that I didn't have in real life, and wake up feeling more disappointed than sad, really. Maybe a year or two ago I dreamt of having this friend, who was like my best friend and a "life guide," who showed me that we could fly by taking a little piece of card and angling it to catch the wind - we were flying over a rice paddy-type area, and my card began to disintegrate in the rain, and I floated to the ground, and when I woke up I felt really lonely and wistful, as though I had lost something really important. Then lately I've been having some dreams involving infidelity and other such unpleasant stuff, and noticed that it was affecting my emotions more than I expected, in a negative way, so I suppose that also counts as sadness.

That's happened to me many times. The first time I felt depressed for nearly a week afterwards. And actually, some of my dreams still revolve around that same DC, although I haven't seen him since that first time.

Its strange how its so easy to get attached to certain DCs.

Dreams can certainly be very emotional and I have felt sad / depressed after many a dream over the years! especially ones that were so vivid and which upon waking seemed real as if the content of the dream was actual fact!

Quote from: MaxFisher on November 02, 2008, 12:33:54 AMExample would be a dream I had once: I was walking through the mall with a gal I didn't recognize afterward.  But during the dream I felt the overwhelming sense of love for her.  Like I had known her for years and loved her.  Then I woke up later feeling empty and missing that feeling of love..  It was so genuine and sad feeling.

I had the exact same thing happen to me.  Dreamed of of a girl I was in love with and had a long detailed relationship with.  During the dream, I could remember previous dreams I've had of her.  A whole other life I was living with this girl in my dreams.  When I woke up, I felt so bad that I could have ever forgotten about her.

Never dreamed of her since that I remember.  Did those previous dreams I was remembering actually happen, or did I make them up as part of that dream?  Who knows, but I really felt bad about it.  I can still picture her face, and it does make me sad to think about.

I've found that whenever i have a dream which has an emotion such as love in it, its amplified massively and I seem to experience it in a whole new way. I too often feel sad when waking up because of the strong emotions encountered, its often that lust for the magical aspect, that that is not real in our reality.

I just had pretty much the same dream and effect a couple of weeks ago about a girl.

I've talked to/seen my late brother in multiple dreams. It's always pretty sad after i wake up realising it was just a dream.  I've also talked to my brother in a lucid dream, and it definately seemed like it was him, which stirred up some emotions.  Its kind of a bittersweet feeling, seeing him again brings happiness, but knowing it wont last/waking up realising it was a dream brings sadness.

I know those dreams well, and one day I'll write something general about them.  In fact these dreams form a good chunk of what people post in the dream interpretation forum over at DV, especially first-timers.  They seem to be as powerful, emotionally, as nightmares are.  Becoming close to someone we know or just a random DC and then missing them on wakening with that wrenching feeling of loss.

I've tried hard to integrate these dreams of love and loss into my life over recent time and now I welcome them.  By keeping hold of that fragile feeling on waking, I find I have a desire to be closer to people during the day.  I doubt others really know what I'm thinking and feeling, but for me it's a huge difference and helps to soothe the sadness.  Perhaps that's what these dreams are about - us being too distant from people IRL and hence sad?

Well something very intriguing happened to me last night/early morning.

I had an EXTREMELY vivid and  complex dream.  Part of it I had a little girl blonde hair that I knew as if she was a daughter.  I can't really remember what happened but I think she had gotten sick for some reason and was going to die.  I remember crying in my dream.  However I woke up immediately afterward my eyes were FULL of tears and my pillow was wet.  I had actually been crying IRL.  It was very different I've never experienced such a thing.

Has anyone else cried in a dream and physically cried IRL simultaniously?

I'll definitely write what I can remember about the whole dream tomorrow.  Stuff like this makes me slap myself for not writing in my DJ every day.

I had a dream when I first started writing my DJ that I woke up from in tears. I assume I must have been crying in the dream too, but I just can't recall it. The dream, like yours, involved a someone who was leaving another person for some reason. The relationship between these 2 people was based on the transfer of metal tins of food to each other (I don't really understand either).

On a lighter note, I know a girl who was laughing at a ridiculous dream situation one time and she actually woke up laughing

I have woken with a number of emotions.  I can't recall tears as such but certainly the bodily tensions of extreme grief and sadness and wanting to cry.  (Odd because I'm quite tearful IRL).

I guess if talking, shouting and kicking in dreams happens then why not crying and laughing?

A few years ago there was a schism within my group of friends, and we found ourselves unable to be around each other. I guess I never really fully recovered from the incident. I still have occasional dreams about them, where they're either taunting me or accepting me again.